No Way — Express Yourself!
Happiness, sorrow, anger, fear, anxiety, stress, depression, disappointment, frustration…they are all emotions that make us human, and these emotions matter. Despite them being very important in our lives, a lot of people despise those who constantly display their emotions, particularly if these are feelings of negativity or sadness. Why? Just as it’s okay to be happy, it’s okay to be angry.
For the most part, we all like being around happy people because they project a lot of energy, it makes us feel good and it helps hard times go by quicker. It’s like when you’re drinking and you get a little buzzed, and everything and everybody seems nice (drink responsibly by the way). The same happens with happy people—they transmit this “buzz” to you. However, can you really be happy all the time? Very unlikely! Some people could probably be more fulfilled than others, but not necessarily happy — although, if believing that they’re happy makes them feel happy, then they should believe!
The reality is that many studies have shown that not everybody is happy, let alone happy all the time. There are several factors that contribute to someone’s happiness, and it has a lot to do with the way that he or she perceives life. They say that there are certain steps that can be followed to change our perspectives and live a happier life. That’s wonderful — training the mind to accept whatever is making us feel miserable, that’s something.
But do any of these make sense? Don’t be so sad if a relative just passed away; you’ll never see them again, but they’re in heaven now. Pay no mind to your abusive, obnoxious boss; at least you have a job. Don’t worry about finding a job to pay your past due bills; a divine intervention will help you pay eventually. Stop worrying about losing those extra 50 pounds, even though your health is quickly deteriorating. You complain too much; find the way to be a happier person, although I am clueless about your reason for being depressed. It’s all bull crap! How can you tell your mind to ignore these facts? Sure you can try to look at the positives, such as the good friends and family in your life who are going to support and encourage you when life happens, and that is lovely. Yay! But, how about the facts? If they give you a reason to be sad, depressed, angry, or guilty, then show and tell your feelings. In fact, that could actually make you feel better.
I don’t know why we have to hide our feelings all the time just to make the sensitive world around us feel better. You celebrate birthdays, engagements, and graduations, so why shouldn’t you be able to also display your gloomy or even poker face when things are not going as smooth? Alright, some of you don’t want others to know that you are miserable — privacy…yeah, gotcha. But just because you are that way (privacy guardian) doesn’t mean that the other person has to conceal, too, what they feel, when they feel it.
There was this one woman who, according to her, had the greatest life and family of all time. It didn’t matter that she was in her 40s and still working a college student job; she was happy. And here was I, a very realistic, very vocal young lady expressing my every thought as it came out. It was like the clash of the titans. To me, there is just no way in hell that you, a human being, can only express one single emotion all of the time, especially if you are a female — with all the hormonal swings every now and then — but even more especially if you are a female approaching menopause. And as of the perfect family…for the love of god, every family is dysfunctional! People just pretend too much and they tend to be very good at it.
I think there are those, actually, who may be genuinely more cheerful and optimistic than others, but those same people also experience “downtime” in their lives (they have to, unless they’re robots). Feelings of negativity and depression happen to all of us at some point, and I do encourage everyone to try to find their way out of it when it happens because it is a horrible feeling that can only lead to self-harm. “Try to make the best out of a situation” is actually attainable. But it’s also important to recognize that our emotions are real, they matter and we experience them for a reason. We must express ourselves; opening up about these emotions is a way of helping us feel better inside.
So, please people, allow everyone around you to express their feelings whatever way they want it (as long as it’s safe practice).
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